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Do Cat Calls+Come on lines=Harassment??

Ladies we have all been through it; the constant barrage of cat calls, and come on lines from men.   Sometimes it can lead to them following us to just get a word in edge wise.  But could this be deemed as harassment?  Let’s dig deeper, and actually understand the definition of harassment.  It is the act of systematic and/or continued, unwanted, and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands.  It can also be a person being placed into an unpleasant or hostile situation by uninvited and unwelcomed verbal or physical conduct from another.

I am not too sure if any of you have seen the recent video that has gone viral over the past couple of days.  There is a young lady who videotaped herself walking throughout New York, for 10 hours (which I find hard to believe) but that’s neither here nor there.  The entire time she was walking, she got attacked with a barrage of compliments, cat calls, comments, and even followed by one guy for about 5 minutes.

I can say personally I do not deem it as harassment, annoying yes, harassment no.  Men are very visual, persistent characters who always will try to see how far they can get with women.  I think they want to see if these lame lines really work, so they can feel as if they’ve accomplished something.

There has been so much back and forth about this video.  Some feel like this young lady should be glad that men threw compliments at her, because if she were ugly then she would be upset that no one was paying her any mind.  I find that to be the dumbest response I have heard yet.  Of course it’s from the male perspective. Ha Ha

What men need to realize is, women aren’t trying to be rude or disrespectful, but it can be emotionally, physically, and spiritually draining to be called at all GOD DAMN DAY.  It would be nice to just walk the streets and not have a soul (male or female) say anything to you.  But instead of me not wanting to hear non sense all day from every male in the city, I should be glad that I am getting a compliment?  Nooooooo first off, I get all the complements I need from my man, and the people that matter in my life, so do I need random compliments from strangers on the street?  I’ll take “NO” for 200 Alex (in my best jeopardy voice).

Like I previously said, it is annoying but not harassment.  However, when you decide to follow me either on foot, or in your car, that’s taking it way too far.  I don’t know you and I do not know what your intentions are.  So I feel it is my duty as an American citizen and NY resident, to pull my pepper spray out and get to spraying.  Then whatever happens after that I should not be blamed for, because I stated that I wasn’t interested; I did not force you to follow me, there were no guns to your head, you did that on your own.  Stop thinking that women are playing hard to get.

A woman can tell right from the jump if you are her type or not.  So besides the fact that the young lady may be in a relationship, it could be time to face the harsh truth that she just isn’t feeling you.  And why should she?  How attractive do you come off, while yelling at her in the street like she is some prize to be won?  Some women don’t know if you are a psycho, a rapist, a murderer, or just all around weird.  So no I don’t feel too comfortable walking past 8 guys standing in front of a grocery store, and having at least 2 of them follow me in some weird “I bet I could get her before you” competition amongst pals.



Till next time dolls  🙂

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